Wouldn't it be nice if I can actually write as much as I write here about the development of science centers or impact of science centers to the community or variation of learning or anything on inquiry based learning. I am shallow. Nonsense.

Frustrations after frustrations.

I went to sleep frustrated and woke up in the morning with a headache. I arrived home from work frustrated with a headache. Wasn't really a good day. I've been through worse though. I was/am in abit of a situation, which kinda made me wonder on how to be a good leader or what actually makes you a good leader. So I asked my old time comrade Google.

Afew things I managed to grasp as I read through some site which I think every leader SHOULD have,

1. A leader also needs to function in an orderly and purposeful manner in situations of uncertainty. People look to the leader during times of uncertainty and unfamiliarity and find reassurance and security when the leader portrays confidence and a positive demeanor

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I was bombarded with questions which made me just stop saying shit. Seriously. The questions kinda made me doubted myself and this cloud of uncertainties started building up behind my ass. I mean, where do I go from here then? Is a leader suppose to doubt the capability of his/her staff to an extend where the inferior would just end up not wanting to proceed with a certain project proposal? Or should a leader direct the inferior to the right path and portrays a little assurance? Lets say, with my current designation would it portray incompetency if I ask a little help from my boss? I mean, to what extend can I ask for help and NOT ask for help and think for myself and have my boss think for me? I was just quite disappointed with how the discussion went today. Kinda makes me wonder whether I didn't negotiate well enough or my boss has this weird leadership procedure.

2. They are bold. Winston Churchill states that courage is the virtue on which all others virtue rest on. Good leaders are bold enough to chase after their dreams. Although the fears are real, a daring leader pursues them regardless of the fears

I am quite confident at certain times. I raise the stake quite high sometimes, it comes back to me and bite me on the ass. But in life, it's about taking chances right? If you wanabe good or outstanding, you're gona have to put yourself at risk right? How are we to move forward if you'd rather stay in your comfort zone? Yeah bright daring ideas might be thrown about around the conference table but when it comes to actually doing it, you take a step back, what's the f**king point of discussing about it and in the end your not implementing it? My confidence was ripped apart today cause of the fear that my boss is having. Can't we make adjustments if something bad were to happen in the future?

3. Strong leaders have effective communication skills. They clearly articulate themselves.

It's hard when a leader doesn't really have a clear vision of what he/she wants. If by any chance you are a leader or the head of something, please ensure that you express yourself in a simple manner. And please super ensure that you are extremely clear and please be rigid, not just in your head but in your inferior's head as well. You don't just say you want chocolate ice cream and suddenly change to vanilla after a person has already prepared chocolate for you. You get what I'm saying?

I have alot more to say, but I think it's best for me to stop here. I might just end up sounding like I'm condemning somebody which I'm not. It just makes me wonder whether this case is caused by the lack of proper leadership skills or lack of negotiation and critical thinking skills.

I know there is something at the end of the rainbow. But how do I cross it?

On a different note, a friend asked, what's your definition of a soulmate?

So again I asked my old time comrade Google.

Google gave me one good definition, mostly because it has RATIO in it. I know. It's mind blowing.

Love Economics Definition of Soulmates

The benefit to cost ratio is called your soulmate ratio. Mathematically, the ratio is written as:

Soulmate Ratio

Total Love Benefit / Total Love Cost

Your soulmate is the person who will maximize your soulmate ratio and vice versa. If another person exists that has the ability to give you a higher soulmate ratio than the person you are with, then the person you are with is not your soulmate. No one in this world, including being by yourself, could make you happier than being in love with your soulmate. True love is the love you share with your soulmate.

There.

I probably should work on my ASPAC forum discussion for tomorrow now.

My confidence level now, NIL. How about yours?

Before you go, distress yourself and watch this :)